The first days of school can be exciting, emotional, and sometimes challenging for young learners. Some children may cry, become clingy, or feel nervous when separated from their parents or guardians. This is normal, especially for pupils who are entering school for the first time or returning after a long break.
As parents and teachers, our support plays a big role in helping children feel safe, confident, and ready to learn. Here are five simple and practical tips to help children adjust to school more smoothly.
1. Prepare Your Child Before the First Day
Adjustment begins even before classes officially start. Parents can help by talking to their children about what to expect in school.
Tell them that they will meet their teacher, make new friends, sing songs, play, read stories, and learn new things. Keep your words positive and encouraging.
You may say:
“Masaya sa school. May teacher na mag-aalaga sa iyo, at may mga bagong kaibigan kang makikilala.”
Avoid using school as a threat, such as “Kapag makulit ka, isusumbong kita sa teacher.” This may cause fear instead of excitement.
2. Establish a Daily Routine
Children feel more secure when they know what will happen next. A simple routine helps them become more confident and less anxious.
Set regular times for sleeping, waking up, eating breakfast, taking a bath, and preparing school things. When children are well-rested and prepared, they are more likely to start the day calmly.
Parents can also prepare school supplies, uniforms, snacks, and bags the night before to avoid rushing in the morning.
A peaceful morning often leads to a better school day.
3. Keep Goodbyes Short and Reassuring
It is natural for children to cry when parents leave, especially during the first few days. However, long goodbyes can sometimes make separation harder.
Instead of staying too long outside the classroom, give your child a hug, say a reassuring line, and leave calmly.
You may say:
“I love you. Enjoy ka sa school. Babalikan kita mamaya.”
Children often calm down faster when they see that their parents are confident and relaxed. When parents look worried, children may feel that school is not a safe place.
Trust the teacher and allow your child to slowly build independence.
4. Communicate with the Teacher
Parents and teachers should work together during the adjustment period. If your child has specific needs, fears, routines, or habits, inform the teacher politely.
For example, you may tell the teacher if your child is shy, easily cries, has food restrictions, or needs help using the comfort room.
Open communication helps teachers understand how to support each child better. At the same time, parents can ask for updates, but it is important to do so at the proper time and in a respectful way.
Remember, the teacher is your partner in helping your child feel safe and comfortable in school.
5. Be Patient and Encouraging
Every child adjusts at their own pace. Some children may feel comfortable after one day, while others may need several days or weeks.
Avoid comparing your child with others. Instead of saying, “Tingnan mo si classmate, hindi umiiyak,” offer comfort and encouragement.
You may say:
“Okay lang kabahan sa una. Unti-unti, masasanay ka rin.”
Celebrate small wins, such as entering the classroom without crying, greeting the teacher, joining an activity, or making a new friend.
Positive words from parents can help children gain confidence and feel proud of their progress.
